The Importance of Saying Goodbye

“Just put me out in a cardboard box” 

or 

“I want one of those cremations I’ve seen on the telly!”

These are sentiments we hear more often than you might imagine. People frequently express wishes to avoid the fuss or expense of traditional funerals, believing this makes things easier for their families. But what happens when those left behind still feel the need for closure?

Over recent months, we've supported several families through exactly this dilemma. They wanted to respect their loved one's wish for simplicity, yet found themselves struggling emotionally, needing their own way to honour the person they’d lost.

One family was divided over how best to proceed. Some felt a full funeral wasn't fitting, while others couldn't bear the thought of doing nothing at all. Ultimately, they chose a fuss-free, gentle farewell with a simple cardboard coffin and heartfelt words. It honoured their dad's wishes beautifully and provided the meaningful goodbye they all needed.

Another family initially opted for an unattended cremation but soon realised it meant missing a chance to say their final goodbye at the chapel. After discussing their feelings openly, they compromised, holding a simple, quiet service that aligned with their mum’s wish for minimal fuss yet offered them comfort.

Because funerals aren't solely for the person who's passed; they're profoundly important for those who remain.

Funerals Have Evolved

Today, funerals don't have to follow traditional expectations. Modern farewells can reflect the unique personality of your loved one and your family's needs. A farewell can be:

• Listening to a personalised playlist of favourite songs.
• An outdoor gathering with a tree-planting ceremony.
• A relaxed coffee morning or gathering at their favourite pub.
• A vibrant, colour-themed celebration.

Saying goodbye doesn't have to be sombre or traditional—it can simply be what feels right for you.

Unattended Doesn’t Have to Mean Uncared For

We understand that some people really do want no fuss. Even an unattended cremation, however, can be handled with dignity and care, locally managed by professionals you know and trust. Families are always informed of the cremation date and are welcome to say goodbye at Colwyn Bay crematorium.

If, in time, you feel the need to commemorate your loved one's life, we're always here to help—whether in a small, intimate setting or a larger memorial gathering. It’s never too late to remember someone special.

A Life Well Lived Deserves to Be Remembered

Every life is unique, filled with memories and meaning. A final goodbye should reflect this, offering comfort rather than regret.

If you’re facing this decision and aren’t sure what feels right, we’re here to listen. There is no right or wrong way to say goodbye - only what works for you.