Books for older children about death
Here are five recommended books for 8-12 year olds that can help explain death.
Sometimes, it can be easier to read about bereavement and life and death rather than talking about it, and these suggested books are both compassionate and thoughtful. They are ideal for older children, who may not feel comfortable talking about the death or their grief.
Ways To Live Forever by Sally Nicholls
Ways to Live Forever is written in a scrapbook/journal style that follows both Sam and Felix who have leukaemia. Dealing with the fact that they may only have a few months left to live, they both try to work out what this means for them. They discuss the facts of life and they make a plan of things to do before they die. They discuss funerals and their plans for their own which may be upsetting for some readers, however it is presented in a fact like manner.
Tamarind And The Star of Ishta by Jasbinder Bilan
Tamarind's mum died when she was very young. The book follows her travels to India to meet her mum's family for the first time as she is desperate to learn more about her. She finds this difficult as the family won't initially talk about her mum and she is incredibly nervous. Tamarind discovers the house is full of secrets. This books cleverly weaves an intriguing and emotional story together with themes of identity, belonging and bereavement with mythology and magic against a stunning backdrop.
A Monster Calls by Patrick Ness
A Monster Calls by Patrick Ness is a complete page turner and it’s deeply emotional. Conor is desperately trying to cope with his mother’s impending death. With a gut-wrenching description of the fury and guilt surrounding caring for a parent, Conor’s anger makes you want to save him. An incredibly beautiful book.
You're Amazing...Anna Hibiscus by Atinuke
Anna lives in West Africa with her large family. When her grandad becomes ill, Anna is scared and hides in the garden. She misses her chance to say a final goodbye. The book deals with the feelings of guilt and sadness that arise in a touching and gentle way. It is a great way to help children to accept the emotions they may feel following a death of a family member.
Max Kowalski Didn't Mean It by Susie Day
Max Kowalski's mum has died and he is stepping up to be the man of the house while his dad works. While Max tries to do the right thing, but that doesn't always go to plan and he finds himself in trouble more than not. He struggles to ask for help. This book follows Max's story of dealing with grief.
